Life is Unscripted

Do you know someone who has a toxic personality?

You never know where your travels take you…

You have encountered them. Perhaps you even live with one.  There are high conflict personalities that we encounter on a regular basis.  Maybe it is a family member, your spouse or a colleague in the workplace…hey, even the cashier at the store.

Not that long ago, I found myself in a very dangerous situation.

Thought I was with the love of my life and my “forever.” Well, as they say, “If it seems too good to be true, then it probably is.” Sure enough, that is what I was in. Promises of a false future, gaslighting, isolation, cognitive dissonance, flying monkeys. Plus the abuse and torture.

I had a small window of time to run for my life. With a bag and $68, I ran. Far.

I was able to secure a placement in a domestic violence shelter. Finally I feel safe.

During this time, I realized I was raised to be, what I call, a “Predator Magnet”.

My mother is personality disordered, my ex-husband is a diagnosed narcissist and the man I ran from is also toxic and is classic NSP borderline personality disordered.

While I have “parked” the RVing Around in “storage”, I have been documenting, podcasting and writing about these latest adventures.

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If you are interested in learning more about Narcissist/Sociopath/Psychopath (recognizing and strategies to use), Pathological Parenting (Parental Alienation) or the healing from such Complex Trauma, check out this daily report of information curated from the web each and every day:

High Conflict Personalities Daily Report

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5 Life Hacks That DO NOT Work

We see websites, blogs and Pinterest Boards dedicated to Life Hacks – everything from time management to empty pill containers.  The goal of a Life Hack is to spend little money to deal with daily dilemmas.  Those of us who choose to live in tiny spaces, such as a RV or van, add space as criteria as well.  Regrettably, not every Life Hack you find is a good choice.  Some Life Hacks actually cause more frustration and problems.  In fact, some will cost you more energy, time and money.  Here is a list of Life Hacks you should totally avoid.

1.  Storing batteries in the refrigerator

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CLAIM: Extends battery life
REAL PROBLEM: Cold temps shorten life.  Condensation breaks battery seals and makes them corrode fast.
 

2.  Hammer and nail used as a corkscrew to open a bottle of wine

RVingAround.us - Failure Life Hacks

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We actually attended a get-together last weekend and saw Millennials try this Life Hack – and failed miserably!

CLAIM: Forget the corkscrew-just hammer a nail into the cork and then use the claw to remove nail with cork.
REAL SOLUTION: It is funny to watch people try this and really think it will work.  Honey, just buy a corkscrew!

3.  Wooden spoon keeping boiling water in check

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CLAIM: Rest a wooden spoon across the top of a pot so it does not boil over
REAL SOLUTION: Turn back your heat a bit so water remains in motion while staying in the pot.  

4.  Peeing on a jellyfish sting

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CLAIM: Simple claim, get stung – have someone urinate on the area
REAL PROBLEM: Urine actually aggravates the venom.  Here is what WebMD recommends for treatment

5. Ketchup bottle for pancake mix

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CLAIM: Ok, this technically works BUT….
REAL PROBLEM: First imagine trying to fill a clean ketchup bottle with the pancake batter. Does not seem like a time or frustration saver.  Next, think about taking a bite. Yeah, in my dream I still can taste the ketchup.  Stick to mixing bowl and measuring cup or ladle.

QUESTION:
What are some Life Hacks that you thought sounded great but turned into total fails?

 

Save Space & Stop Hoarding Office Supplies

Throw Away The Yellowed Index Cards & Donate Those 300 Pencils

When we were downsizing and preparing to reside in our travel trailer full time, the amount of accumulated sicky notes was quite surprising.  Look, we all have our things we love.  And I really, really, really love sticky notes.  I never met a sticky note I didn’t love.  In fact, every room in our house had at least two stacks of sticky notes in some color, shape or size.  Yup, they are my thing.  And it was time to let some of them go.  I admit, here was some eye twitching and body shakes involved. With some time, very proud that I am well on the road to recovery from Sticky Notes Syndrome.

The original task at hand was to consolidate three rubbermaid totes of office supplies.  Fortunately, with kids taking classes, moving into new spaces and Goodwill, every extra supply, found new homes.  I even let go of some of my sticky notes, too!

The dilemma was to re-inventory what was saved. Then honestly ask if we needed to keep a full suitcase of supplies on hand.  Of course there is no need for a full suitcase of office supplies.  Guess it was time to face reality.

With 15 minutes, some baggies: snack, sandwich, quart and gallon, and a box – I am very proud of how I have been able to let go of even more stuff.

I also learned that I am well into my recovery phase of Sticky Notes Hoarding.

QUESTION: What do I do with my amount of supplies now that I no longer need a suitcase?  How do you keep your supplies together and organized?  Post your comments and pictures…

DAILY CHORES WHEN LIVING IN A SMALL SPACE

When you live in a small space, especially in an RV, every inch counts when it keeps to maintaining your sanity and having freedom to just simply live. When a tiny living space is cluttered, disorganized or dirty, we all feel tired, hopeless, and poor. Having a home that is clean and organized provides a sense of calm, health and wealth. To make this happen, I would like to share my daily chores when living in a small space.

Having a clean and organized home just doesn’t magically happen. It’s about developing a strategy and using tools of the trade. Since we are just coming off of Super Bowl 50, it’s our list of game plays and bags of equipment.

Some people purchase cleaners while others make their own. Similarly with tools – some people like to purchase special equipment, wands and rags. Others may just have a grocery bag near their dryer to toss in old items to re-purpose for cleaning. Tossed in this bag would be old t-shirts, socks, worn-out towels and washcloths.

Whatever your choices, let’s take a look at an action list that makes the best sparkle with minimal sacrifice of your precious time.

After waking up, drinking coffee, watching news, then getting dressed, it’s time for a healthy and hearty breakfast.

Once we finish our chow down, it is time to attack the house, taking special shots at any dusty tumbleweed that is thinking about formation. Once done with the Daily Chores aka “Tidy Tasks”, I am able and fully ready to really, yes really, start my day.

First, I grab my iPhone or iPad and set my Tomato Timer. 25 minutes….Ready…Set…Go! Working from the left side of the house to the right, here are the items to focus on…

KITCHEN

  • Dishes
  • Coffee Pot
  • Small Appliances
  • Counter
  • Table
  • Floor
  • Rags

LIVING ROOM

  • Blankets, Cushions, Pillows
  • Remotes
  • Launch Pad
  • Entertainment Center
  • Floor

BATHROOM

  • Hang Towels & Washcloths
  • Dirty Laundry
  • Wipe Sink
  • Toilet Brush
  • Shake Rugs
  • Floor

BEDROOM(S)

  • Make Bed
  • Change Pillow Cases Every Other Day
  • Dirty Laundry
  • Clean Laundry
  • Wipe & Tidy One Flat Surface
  • Floor

21 minutes. That’s all Daily Chores took today. Our space is tidy, clean and organized so we can enjoy what the day brings. Next time, let’s talk about Daily Chores again, but the list for evenings.

QUESTION: What do you faithfully include on your morning chore list so that your living space is clean and organized?

Ooma Products

Telephone Service via Internet

We were asked about what phone service we use. Our landline number was ported over to the Internet for a phone service. Here is a selection of Ooma Productsthat you can use for this service. Drop us a note for more details on how to use the Internet for your phone line. LOVE saving the $$$!